Using the steps to logical problem solving, describe how you would handle the situation the next time another child tells you that Jamal hit him. Describe what you could say – be detailed.ANSWER – Next time when a child complains about Jamal’s behaviour, I would follow four steps. First I would announce time-out and separate Jamal from other children so that other children can stop crying and continue their activities without any disruption.
For Jamal, I would set a timer and ask him to think what he did wrong in another room. Second is the most important step when I would converse with Jamal in private to tell him how inappropriate his behaviour was. Separation of Jamal from other children and face-to-face conversation increase the chances of expectations and change.
Third step is to wait for Jamal till he stops crying and be stable. Later I would ask him to count numbers or sing his favourite song or poem. It would distract him from his previous arrogant behaviour and helps to make him calm down. Once he is back in his good mood, I would tell him not to repeat the mistakes. My friendly conversation, smiling face, patient deportment and an affectionate hug in the last would definitely melt him and stop him to behave aggressively. The last step is once Jamal understands and ready to correct his behaviour, I would make other children accept him, forget the differences and tell them to not get scared of him anymore. Thus Jamal can mend his relationship and befriends with others easily.
Why do children misbehave? List 3 possible causes and explain why it would contribute to inappropriate behaviour.
ANSWER – There are three reasons that can be pointed out for the children who misbehave and lead to inappropriate behaviour.
1. If the child is born and brought up in an insecure environment, he tends to behave abnormally and brings aggression in his attitude. This is the medium he uses to fetch attention of the others. Lack of comfort, protection and love often makes the child insecure and compels him to misbehave.
2. Some children who are either physically strong or active and agile feel superior to others. They enjoy demonstrating their power on others by behaving inappropriately.
3. Few children are over pampered by their families and they use the same technique at the day care. They have the habit of bending people on their wishes just like their parents at home. These children do not possess the ability to share and are too stubborn to follow teachers’ rules. They often illustrate pattern of inappropriate behaviour if their demands do not get fulfilled.